My Husband Lied To Me
I know you saw the subject line and want to know more, so let me explain.
My husband had been out doing his own errands and came back home to pick me up for one we needed to do together.
As soon as I got into the car I could smell something odd. There was an aroma of onions and fried food. As I kept sniffing I asked if he knew what it was. He said he didn’t.
The smell was strong, so I kept investigating, searching under the seats for evidence of forgotten food left by one of our children. Nothing.
We kept driving, and I became more puzzled. It didn’t add up, but I let it go.
I asked if he wanted to get something to eat, but he said he wasn’t hungry. This should have been a clue.
Finally, after a few hours together he admitted he had stopped at a fast food restaurant.
WHAT?!!!
Why lie to me about that? It’s not like he’s never eaten at a fast food restaurant before, but it had been awhile. He was trying hard to eat better and make some changes to improve his health.
So the answer to “why the lie”?
Shame.
He had a "fail” in his eyes and didn’t want to admit it.
I know he’s not alone in this experience because I’ve been there too and very likely so have you.
We can be so hard on ourselves when we know all the things to do to be healthy, but still make an unhealthy decision here and there.
Guess what? We are all human and in our culture of the SAD (Standard American Diet) it can be next to impossible to be perfect. That aim towards perfection can leave us berating ourselves, covering up the truth and creating a ton of stress around eating in general.
As a health coach, when I work with my clients around this “shame game”, I sometimes encourage them to “be bad”. That doesn’t mean go on an indefinite frenzy of crappy food, drinking like a fish and turning into a sloth.
It’s giving yourself permission every once in awhile to loosen the reins and intentionally pick something that feels naughty and do it, all the while paying attention to what is triggering the want, how it feels when you do it and the after effects.
It’s all information.
Dr. Mark Hyman, Functional Medicine Doctor and health guru, encourages a 90-10 diet. 90% healthy, clean food and 10% other. That takes the guilt away for that chocolate square after a meal or a slice of crusty bread.
Above all, it’s about listening to YOUR body!
In my Illuminate Your Health program, that is exactly what I support my client’s in doing without guilt or shame for the 10%.
If you want to learn more or know someone who might, hit reply and we can set up a Health Discovery call. This is a Free 50 minute call to chat about your health history, your goals and how my program could best support you.
In Health & Happiness,
Victoria